Teacher without title!

           Nowadays I am learning to know lot of important little things from various people, more than observing I am trying to implement. Because of that I am feeling more excited and energetic in life. One of the main reasons behind this is, my daughter. Though the problems in life have not solved!

           Earlier when I used to observe people leaving office at one specific sharp time whether they have come by cab or not, I used to feel, how come they don’t give much importance to work. I didn’t realize then that, priorities change on different timings of the day. If its morning, high priority will be to “ Get ready and goto office” and when its evening, it will be to “Get ready and goto home/family/friends”. But it was not the case with me, it was always office,office,office.

            

           Things have changed now, understood the importance of changing priorities at different timings of the day. So nowadays, I am pushing myself to start early from office in the evening so that i can spend time with my family, especially with my daughter. As i can’t bring back time lost in early part of married life. Where always it was one mantra work, work, work.  Never ever taken leaves to spend time with family proactively , it was really greatest cause of concern.

Now while playing with my daughter everyday, the joy she is giving cannot be put into words.  Realized, i have already wasted enjoying almost 4 years of beautiful life with her! Atleast now onwards i have to spend “quality” time with her.  i don’t want her to say later that, what her mother says now to me. 24/7 if you are into work, why family for you?

I know, i have had laptop on my lap more than my daughter!

            Nothing can be matched to the kind of energy she has, the sweet and innocent talks she gives. Happiness she finds in small things, gives a lesson of life to us. Everyday gets ready in the evening thinking that i will come early and take her out or play with her. This is happening since the time she started understanding things and people, but hardly i have turned up ontime to meet her expectations. I remember most of the time, it was after 2-3 hours wait, i have taken her out, i.e very late in the night when most of kids might have already slept!

In the evenings, for any car sound she rushes to tell her mom, check whether it is Dad car or not. Any door knock, she comes running to door, thinking that, i have come. I have not met her expectations, but still when I come home after hours of her waiting, she comes running to me with lots of love. The kind of love she has on me, shows a lesson of life for us, about unconditional love.

Feeling like, i should enjoy every moment of life like her. I am trying to do also. I am trying to enjoy little things in life like her, want to express something, expressing if its not hurting others. Want to go somewhere, going without second thought. Want to talk to someone talking without hesitation. Want to tell something in excitement, telling with excitement, no matter what they are excited or not. Want to buy something, buying without second thought.  Bought good number of books and pens quite recently. The joy of buying books also is unmatchable. Want to appreciate anybody, appreciating without second thought.  Want to read something, reading without fail. Want to write something, writing without fail. Thats why this writeup is infront of you.

In general, want to take action, taking action immediately. Want to enjoy, enjoying at that moment.

One small observation before I sign off, i have not seen or heard small kids getting headache.

Have you ever noticed it, why they don’t get?

aMAr

Perceptions!

                  To change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions.

I never thought one day i will be writing something of this sort. Coming from a place where, if someone dresses up differently or more fashionable or more modern becomes centre of attraction because of all wrong reasons. People generally used to talk in the back in negative way. They would see the person in such a way that, he /she has come from different planet. After going through such environment for many such years, indeed it’s very difficult to change our perceptions.  It is possible to change during teenage or young age, but not possible when we grow old. After crossing 50 or 60, we can’t expect any changes from old, others who are with them, need to get adjusted.

Just like most of the people from small places have a “perception”,” modern looking people are very different, they don’t think and act like us”. Some of the common “assumptions” are:

                They don’t respect elders

                They have attitude

                They don’t care what others think

                They don’t have common sense

                They are bold

They don’t have manners

They don’t have values

Just like these, there are so many negative assumptions, installed and running effectively in brain. I , as a person, thinking on those same lines, got a nice hit from some very modern people’s  good mannerisms.

Yeah right, just by seeing someone wearing modern dress , it is not correct on our part to think, they don’t have values. I was really surprised to see some of the ultra modern people but very well behaved. Having very good respect for others, showing care for others and very good value system.

Dressing style has nothing to do with bad attitude. Have seen some very young ultra modern individuals with very nice attitude towards others. No matter what, whether they know other individual or not.

Generally people think on modern fashionable individuals that, they don’t know how to carry themselves. May be it is true for some, but not true for everyone.  But it is also true like how; black dot on a white paper is more visible. Have seen some very modern individuals with full covered dresses with very good manners. In fact also seen, some orthodox looking individuals with no good manners, it doesn’t mean all orthodox like that. Same way modern fashionable people also, we should not conclude seeing some.

Need to understand that, dressing up in fashionable manner, is just a style statement or way of living. There is nothing wrong when someone trying to be different from others. There is nothing wrong, if some looks confident and carries himself/herself confidently always!

Only thing required is, we need to see people and world with open mind, that’s the only way to see the world in right way.

In this fast growing competitive world, we can’t expect women to wear saree always and get into bus, ride the two wheeler.

If perceptions and practices are not helping to get right results in right time, then its right time to change! There is nothing wrong, if someone tries to be happy in the way they like to be without hurting others. Whatever is comfortable for the individual, need NOT  be comfortable to the world.

Milk might take different forms in its life cycle, may become curd, butter, butter milk, but never loses its color “white”.

Stay connected to the world in right way in right time.

Signing off,

aMAr

Two people can see the same thing, disagree, and yet both be right. It's not logical; it's psychological.